I normally stay away from very personal topics, like dating and relationships, but I genuinely would like advice on dating while in graduate school. I am single and am wondering about how I go about meeting people in a new city and new school.
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I'm also sure there are others who may have a similar question. Get involved in some activity outside of school--church, special interest group, volunteer community service group, you name it. I'm one of those people who has their finger in several pies Best hookup sites for grad students once and I've met a LOT of really cool men this way. Didn't do me a lot of good for many years because I wasn't single then--but I can see that my "getting involved" habit is really going to pay off now that I am back on the market.
UnlikelyGrad is absolutely right. One of my colleagues came to town single just over two years ago and married her now husband yesterday.
She met him by getting involved with a local church that had a young adult group that organizes regular get-togethers. Another colleague met a long-term boyfriend through a community yoga group. Thanks for providing some examples runonsentence! I definitely feel a lot more optimistic now: Internet dating sites - yes, seriously.
I've used them since I was an undergrad and have met some wonderful men, some of which turned out to be long term relationships.
I'm not good at meeting people out and about, in bars, etc. Sure, there are some people that aren't totally truthful, but those people can be out in church groups, yoga clubs, and bars, too. I met my current boyfriend online. He's a city planner and has been one of my biggest supporters of my academic pursuits.
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If you attend their social events then you could potentially meet other people at those events that share similar interests. Even if it is just backyard BBQ they are hosting. You never know, they might have some nice neighbors.
Again I'm here to say don't do the online thing Yes
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But to each his own. As for the higher concentration of weirdos online Who do you think is online? All of those people you see out in the world, including us. And please don't say "bingo! Thanks for the advice everyone, really. While I do know of people finding successful relationships online, I don't think online dating is for me. I think I will just stick with meeting people through social activities. I would like to add, from my own experience, that dating someone outside of academia can be difficult in itself, which is why Best hookup sites for grad students of us inter-marry.
It also helps that we have the same schedules. Many of my friends who aren't with people in academia list the differences in their careers as a huge issue in their relationships--it's just hard to understand our work from the outside looking in.
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I actually only have experience dating others from school, which is why I am thinking that dating outside of school might be something I should think about. While someone from academia might understand what I am going through as a doctoral student, I am also sure that there are people in the outside world who can also be sympathetic.
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I have never met relationship-worthy guys at a bar unless I knew them beforehand and we just happened to finally talk at a bar. I have met most of them through sports I play rugby, we're a very tight knit community and I met my current significant other through an engineering design club. I am in an extremely male-dominated field, however, so that certainly helps, although I have only dated one engineer.
I have friends outside of school who don't understand that reading and writing actually take time I think you advice definitely encourages me not to shut all doors Thanks for your help! Yeah, I'm in English Lit and my husband is in History. It's nice because some of our stuff overlaps, but we're separate enough.
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