When Kristin Russo came out to her Catholic mother at the age of 17, her mother withdrew, albeit temporarily. That was back in Extended family referred Rose to bible passages. It helped, but Rose was still grasping for perspective. After a while, she sought from a few gay people she found through family and friends.
For nearly a decade, any trip Russo took home from college and later New York City ended with her mother bursting into tears. Kristin Russo at 16 years old R with her mother Rose. As far as Russo, who is now 33, knows, in those pre-Google days, Rose never went to the library to find books on parenting gay teens. Even if she had, the few parenting books available at the time may have made her mother feel worse, not better.
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Popular culture has undergone a revolution in attitudes toward LGBT people in the last five or so years. A generation of children and teens are coming out youngerand a generation of parents are more willing to embrace them. But resources for those parents have lagged behind.
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Then again, Russo and Owens-Reid have built their careers out of filling another similar void. They are the duo behind the website EveryoneIsGay. While the Internet is cluttered with advice sites tackling the thorny problems of being young, few other sites are dedicated to being young while being gay. On video, the pair lip-synch to pop songs and respond to questions from viewers left by voicemail.
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Because I think before you talk about anything, it feels so heavy. They tend to go along together, and one helps mediate the other. When the 75 seats for the event filled up, people sat cross-legged on the floor and stood, several rows deep, along the side of a small stage.
Russo and Owens-Reid read versions of their own coming-out stories aloud from the pages of Parents. Liam Lowery, a young transgender man and law student, recounted the thrills and terrors of realizing he was transgender through stealthily watching "The L Word" in high school. Each reference to an "L Word" plotline was greeted by peals of laughter.
I want to appear strong, because I strong now. But at the same time I know it is important—perhaps even the whole point of writing this thing—to make myself vulnerable. Because I know that there are human beings out in the world who understand these feelings but cannot give them a name. Feeling messed up is a part of life, but it is not the only part.
And the only way out of that feeling is through. This was a book event, but it felt like a queer communion. In fact, their site began as something of a joke. The blog attracted attention from media outlets like the New York Post
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She was halfway through getting her masters in Gender Studies, so we both had a lot to say about it. They answered questions once a week, and started bringing in other voices to respond to questions from transgender, asexual, and intersex teens.
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In the fall ofwithin a matter of weeks, four American teens between the ages of 13 and 18 killed themselves after enduring harassment from peers for being gay.
The news shed new light on the pressures faced by gay teens. Bycolleges and high schools began asking Russo and Owens-Reid to speak in their classrooms and auditoriums. Bullying of gay students had gone unaddressed for so long. Teachers had brought their classes, it was packed. Meanwhile, Russo and her mother Rose have come a long way. The only thing I can tell you is that inI was very sick. A gallbladder operation went wrong.
I could have died. You have these near death experiences, and afterwards you reflect. Kristin was my biggest reflection. Rose recalled feeling deep regret for the years of strife between them on the topic.
That totally changed things for me. It was a number of years before Russo felt that her mother had fully come around. Six years ago—10 years after Russo came out—she says she could tell for the first time that Rose felt comfortable around Russo's then-girlfriend.
That was when I could go home without her sitting me down and bursting into tears. To me, the book is a wonderful thing. Now, they're turning towards advice for parents. Request Reprint or Submit Correction.
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